As my "self" changes and grows, you are my friend if you will react to what I say and do honestly. If we try too hard to be someone other than ourselves, the guidance we might give to another is confusing. The messages get garbled.
I am rebuilding a world view. I don't want to steal yours, but as we talk to one another, I'm seeking the truth from your experience. The truth you offer may be given in many ways; not always pleasant. If it is truth, it will add to my world view. If you attempt to soften or temper your truth, it will be unclear in its meaning. It is then harder to renovate than rebuild.