We all seem to crave external approval.
Implied, of course, is the reverse - a dislike for disapproval.
We spend a great deal of time and energy disowning problems.
"That is not my fault".
"That is not my problem".
There are psychic penalties to pay for such evasion. Accepting responsibility or shunning it is an internal activity.
By accepting responsibility for our reality, we take an active position.
By taking a responsible, active attitude, we avoid guilt.