Perhaps an important realization is the difference between happiness and joy.
My life is a pleasant series of events. "I can't complain" as they used to say.
"I am happy", in a sense of saying "I am content with my life".
What is missing from my life is an element of spontaneity; that unpredictable something done by, or said by someone who cares for fun, and is intelligent and friendly enough to want to share joy.
Joy is spontaneous. Joy cannot coexist with boredom, but happiness can.