The person you will choose to love will reflect, to some great extent, your vision of them as well as your vision of an idealized self.
Hero worship is a good example of this. Your vision of this person is not necessarily an accurate one, and the image of yourself that has caused your designation of this other person as worthy of emulation, may not be accurate either. Thus, to the rest of the world, your decision to love is hard to understand. Even the object of your love will misinterpret your motives, and will certainly not share them.
Do not expect reciprocal love. If love is reciprocal, do not ascribe your motives to your partner.